Wake Up, Make Up, Repeat – How Instagram is Killing our Expectations and Standards #MalikahsMind

More and more, I’m seeing the SAME exact thing on IG. Literally. On my explore page, I find myself thinking “Am I looking at the same person?”, when I’ve actually seen pictures from 3 different accounts. That’s how similar everyone looks. Blame it on the IG algorithm, but this is definitely a more prevalent issue, now more than ever, and will get worse with time to come.

Every person’s content is the same. It’s like a very close up selfie of their face, thick brows, coloured contact lenses, false lashes, bright highlight, and pouty lips. I’m not shaming the use of makeup nor am trying to be the haraam police. But, I couldn’t help but realize how much I’m seeing this, over and over and OVER again. All day long. Nothing changes. Those same accounts keep getting bigger and bigger, reinforcing that this is look you need to have to be ‘successful’.

I can’t say I haven’t been affected. Especially when you put yourself out there so publicly, people are always judging you. I don’t wear makeup every day. Far from it. See me at school, I’m literally a different human LOL. But that’s okay. I like to dress up for fancy occasions and wear makeup. However, I noticed that I’d only want to make IG stories when I ‘looked good’ or would put makeup on to film a hijab tutorial just to take it off the minute the camera stopped recording.

So why am I writing this? I honestly feel so sad and upset when I see girls who are 10-13 years old feeling like they HAVE to wear makeup or constantly thinking that they aren’t beautiful. Growing up, I did not have a lot of self-confidence, but at least I did not grow up with a constant bombardment of how I should be looking by people who WERE LIKE ME. Yes, I saw supermodels and actresses who looked flawless, yet, I was able to make a distinction between them and myself. However, now the pressure is coming from our hijabi sisters, which makes it even more weighting. Now, I’m not blaming ANYONE. I’m not trying to say “well it’s their fault”. But, what I am trying to say is that we cannot ignore the effects of social media and the overwhelming amount of the same content being blasted at us.

Now, you may also be thinking, “Malikah, you know you’re part of this too, right?!”. And I do know, naturally, by being a blogger and always showing the ‘best’ version of myself, I’m contributing to the issue in my own way. So I have been working towards making IG stories showing my regular and REAL life. Showing myself unedited and unfiltered. I talk about real life issues and I address that I do not wear makeup/dress up everyday. Just while writing this blogpost, I found at least 4 accounts with similar ‘looks’.

My motivation to continue blogging is because I want people to love their hijab, whether they be young or old. I want to show people that we, as veiled women, can achieve anything we set our mind to and I try to lead by example. We are not bound by our looks, yet if we choose to, we can dress in a way that we are proud of and feel proud representing Islam with our hijab. I want young girls to get excited about hijab and not think about it as a chore or something they just have to do. Of course, we are all fighting our own battles and not every day is easy. But, that doesn’t mean we have to do things the way everyone does it. We were born to be different, why are we trying to be the same?

Let me know what your thoughts are on this? Do you agree? Do you think I’m overthinking this whole thing?

Let’s chat in the comments!

As always, lots of love and duas,


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3 thoughts on “Wake Up, Make Up, Repeat – How Instagram is Killing our Expectations and Standards #MalikahsMind

  1. This is so true!! I’m not a big fan of makeup and I hate this “kardashian culture” or whatever that is going on right now. I also feel like it’s so hard to make it on instagram when you are not posting selfies showing yourself wearing tons of makeup, but then again I’d rather not make it than pretend to be something I’m not.

  2. I completely agree with everything you said. Your approach and style has always been different from the majority of bloggers and it’s refreshing. Keep doing what you are doing ❤️

  3. Basically, the celebrity culture is making its wave through the Muslim community in the West. And social media magnifies the insecurities that people already have. Like you said, we’ve always had these types of unrealistic standards and advertisements bombard us with marketing (and yes, it’s pure marketing. No one cares about you, they want to sell to you. Whether they’re selling themselves or they’re selling a product, it’s marketing). But we’ve always been able to differentiate ourselves from those crowds because we were taught differently as Muslims. Now that we’re the ones on the billboards, we’re hurting ourselves. Why do we care about representation on makeup ads and runways? Are we really going to be accepted because we can do the same makeup and fashion as the majority west? We’re just playing a game of catch up really, saying to them (and ourselves) “hey look at me, I can do it too!” And it’s nice to get some publicity and positive PR, sure. But these aren’t the values that Islam is built on. People will love to harp on the statements of how Allah loves beauty and how presentable appearance is a sign of dignity and it’s encouraged in Islam..and it’s true. But we have our own boundaries and limitations, and they’re not the ones set out by the West and they’re flawed, objectified ads. Its not to say make-up is haraam, but do we not see what’s really being promoted? Are we really going to be accepted because we show up on some ads? No, and we’re kidding ourselves if we do. The Qur’an even talks about this issue, how we won’t be accepted in the world like that until we renounce our faith entirely. We’ll be cheered on when we follow their lead, but as soon as we stand up for what’s right and make moves that progress Islam and promote holistic Islam, we’ll be petitioned against and spat on.

    It’s great to see that we’re making an Islamic culture for ourselves here, it definitely is. It gives us an identity and allows us harmoniously bring together different cultures and lifestyles. But not everything that the West does fits in with our ideals, and we need to stop stretching the boundaries and the integrity of Islam in the name of fitting in in the West.

    I truely hope the core message of my comment is understood and that it isn’t taken to offense or as an attack to anyone. We just have to be honest with ourselves. All the best.

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